Thursday, March 22, 2007

Puh-Lizzz...

This is fast becoming a really irritating pattern.

Everytime I move to another place, somebody would eventually throw a knowing look at me and say, “Wow...who knows, you might meet your Mr. Right there..”

And now that I am planning another move, well, surprise surprise, the question pops up again. Sigh.

Hope springs eternal in the bosoms of those who want to marry me off.

The thing is, marriage is good and I’m honest enough to myself to admit that it is not exactly the farthest thing in my mind—but neither is it the foremost.

My life’s been really good. I get to do so many things that I would never have been able to do, had I remembered to get married in my 20’s. Those of my married friends who want to marry me off actually see this, and know this. Yet it seems like unless a single girl settles down, she is still looked upon as a somewhat incomplete and unfulfilled individual. I feel sorry that people feel that way—and sorrier for those singletons who actually believe this to be true.

So to my friends, I know you mean well, but the fact is I AM well—and if the right person does come along, hurray to that—but if not, I still have cause to celebrate life and all the amazing things that God has deigned to bless me with.

20 comments:

Yna said...

hi there :-) thanks for inviting me to your blog. if you're still single after a year in UK, sa SK na derecho mo! you are very much welcome with open arms :-) -- from Yna

melai said...

same problem with mine
hmmn oopppss I got married once lol!! but since single parent na ako and my two younger sister are happilly married parang masyadong troubled yata ang nanay ko pagiging single ko.

Wil said...

Hi there, bloghopping from verns. Anyway, there's tons of people who are important contributors to society and never married, like Ralph Nader and Mother Theresa. I also share your view: it'd be nice to get married, but if I don't, it's not the end of the world. :-)

Swipe said...

I know the feeling. sometimes I just want to tell to quit trying to pair me up. I know they mean well but it's freaking irritating. It's not like I'm whining about being an unattached. To be quite honest, I am still discovering good things about being unattached.

Leah said...

You go girl! What a great attitude. Sana ganyan din ako noon at that age. I was always thinking of settling down then. Its not all to life. There are so many adventures out there for you to take so grab it on. Goodluck in the UK studies. Hope all goes well.

snglguy said...

Believe me, married life isn't what it's cracked up to be. Been there once, it didn't exactly made me complete and fulfilled...

You'd be better off doing things that a lot of "settled" women can only dream of.

annamanila said...

Cool ka na lang sa mga well-wishers mo. Pero I suppose dumadami na din ang liberal minded who know that nowadays women have more choices than before -- to get married or not, to have a baby or not, and when. Another option -- to have a baby and not marry. Nung time ko, it's not a matter of choice ... hehehe. Ay Gypsy -- basta be happy! Happy na din ako. :)

Mon said...

Uy I'm glad I didn't mention anything about boys, marriage and the likes. Hahahaha, might aswell get use to it. After you get married then having kids would be next. Need I say more?


Have a great weekend :)

Sidney said...

“Marriage requires a person to prepare 4 types of "Rings": Engagement Ring, Wedding Ring, Suffering, Enduring”

;-)

vernaloo said...

lol @ Sidney :)

Uhhhmmmm I think ergo I'm single lolz...parang yan lang muna masasabi ko na excuse why single ako ngayon hehehe :)

hayyy totoo yan. Worst pag umuuwi ka sa probinsha..lahat ng tita pati kaibigan ng mga tita wala nang maitanong kundi "kelan ka magpapakasal?" o "wala ka pa ring boyfriend?"

hayyyy

sexy mom said...

what i believe is that if it is meant to be it will happen. if it is not meant to be, no matter how hard one tries, it will not happen. so, there is really no need for people to be stressed about it when you yourself is not worried. anyway, just don't take them seriously. :)

dimaks said...

blessings are laid upon on the road, it is up to you to grab them.. do your best and live life good.

Abaniko said...

I think you also spoke for me. Hahahaha. But we're happy (complete) people, right? Cheers!

niceheart said...

Actually, I have the same observations as annamanila. I also have friends who married late and also a few who waited for a few years before having children. What's important is that you are having a grand time with your life. :)

kathy said...

Amen to that! God has a perfect time for everything to happen. :)

Gypsy said...

Yna, SK? As in Single's Kingdom?! Bwahaha! Thanks for the invite. Hehe.

Ay Melai..nanay ko way past troubled na. Hope your sisters can help your mom see things differently in your case, that you are single and very much fulfilled!

Wil, so true! I can add to the list pa of fulfilled singles na ang daming na contribute sa society! Thanks for dropping by! :)

Swipe, if you check one of my earlier posts (May 2006), I talked about the Top 10 Ickiest remarks made to singles... am sure you can relate! Hehe.

Leah, thanks! Will surely make the most of the my stay in the UK! :)

Snglguy, I somehow know what you mean--I've seen good marriages as well as bad ones--enough not to have illusions about how marriage will 'complete' me.

Annamanila,you are right. Buti na lang nga at this day and age, medyo iba na ang perception ng singlehood, mas positive na. :)

Mon, buti na lang..hehe. And at this point in time, I still can't imagine myself having kids! Iba yong playmate ka lang ng mga pamangkin mo, iba din yong nanay ka...:)

Sidney, haha! So pag may asawa ka, and been married for many years, ano ka na? Lord of the Rings? Hehe.

Verns, ano fa?! Hmmm...basta single and beautiful ka, don't mind them na lang.

Sexy Mom, I know I shouldn't take them seriously, you should hear the flippant remarks I dish back at them, but sometimes they do take their toll. But anyway, all these comments help me bounce back! Hehe.

Dimaks, yup. True ka dyan! Basta enjoy life lang. :)

Abaniko, yup happy people--even BLISSFUL people. Hmm..should right about the joys of singleBLISSEDness. Hehe. Bisaya gyud.

Niceheart, true true! I am having a grand time. Its always a choice to see things from a positive perspective.

Kathy, amen din sa statement mo, sister! :)

Anonymous said...

gypsy girl, this is your friend Eponine of Davao! lately, akong ginareflect na mas okey gyud maging single. ngano pa gyud ko naga waste ug time thinking ngano wala pa nag asawa. mas daghan ko mabuhat kaysa nag bantay bata ug bantay asawa. he he he. pero kidding aside, nagabantay bata pud ko usahay kay Juleanne ug johannah. dal-un sila sa mcDo, suroy sa mall, bisita Amah sa tindahan, etc. etc. well, wala na gyud ko naga guol kung ngano single pa ko karon. enjoy man ko bantay sa akong paumangkun!

Gypsy said...

Eponine, atta girl! You are right, daghan man ma-enjoy sa single life...and the fact that you have your lovely nieces to play with is a great bonus! :)

zelle said...

30s is the new 20s! People marry late na! Ngano man diay ug single pa basta gwapa ug naay kwarta mapalit ang gusto! hehehe.

We are in the same boat. Ayaw ko na nga mag explain eh. nakakapagod lang. basta happy tayo! :)

eydyeyey said...

hi!
bloghopping here..sayang, just read this post! naka-relate ako eh! and it seems marami sa readers mo ang naka-relate ha?!! it only shows na di ka (tayo) nag-iisa! :)