"How are you?"
Lately, I find these words uttered less often than should be. Manners seem to be going down the drain these days. How sad!
I wonder why?
What is so difficult about saying the above words?
I remember once when I was having a really bad cold. I got a call from a friend I haven’t heard from in ages. I asked him/her, “How are you?” Most of the time, I mean it when I say it. As the friend went on to chatter about news of his/her life—I coughed and sneezed through my “uhuh’s” and “really’s.” When I put down the phone minutes later, I realized that this friend never even bothered to ask me how I was—or if I was sick!
On the other hand,
I helped another friend through a rough transition period. She pulled through and went on to do a lot of things that made me proud to be her friend. After some time I got a greeting card from her. She wrote “You were there from the very start. Thank you, it meant a lot to me.” No big fanfare, just simple words. Yet they warmed my heart.
Let me set the record straight, it’s not that I want people to shower my path with roses or fall prostrate with gratitude every time I do something for them or talk to them. Far from it. I don’t mind helping people out. Really, I don’t.
But a simple “thank you” would be nice. Nicer especially nowadays when its fast becoming an uncommon courtesy.
But maybe….life is just too hard these days. Maybe we’re just too stressed out to bother with courtesy. Maybe we’re just too worried about ourselves. Maybe we just need to expend all our energy internally to survive this rat race called life…
Wouldn’t a bit of courtesy help us become less stressed, less worried and make life less of a rat race?
Anyway, I can’t control other people’s behavior.
But I can control mine!
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