Wednesday, April 16, 2008

Tara Na!

You know how it feels when you anticipate something and then it doesn’t happen? Yeah, disappointment is not the best feeling in the world. Sometimes, it may just be a small twinge that gets you all self-deprecatory, “See? Told you so—it won’t really happen...” And that’s fine, a day out with friends would easily erase the feeling—without even having it mentioned out loud.

And then there are the more crushing ones that could literally make you feel heartsick, or angry or sad. Those ones need more than just a pep talk from friends—for some, it would take more than a hug, or even a good cry. This is something not easily erased.

The strange thing is—what could trigger deep disappointment in one and just an “oh, well…” reaction from another could be almost the same thing. Not all the time, of course but on certain occasions anyway.

It all depends I guess, on how high you set your expectations, or how many disappointments you’ve already been through in life (some only have a diploma in disappointments while others have Ph.D's!).

Whichever the case maybe, the whole point I guess is when one starts moving on from that disappointment. And yes, the key thing is “when” not “if.” What a wasted life it would be if one decides to wallow in it or build a home on top of it. Yes, analyze it if you must, philosophize about it (like what I'm doing now), deal with it, cry over it—and if the disappointment redeems itself at some point, great--but for now, we’ve got to move on.

I have always loved the phrase moving on—in almost all areas of life, most especially in the area of disappointments. Because moving on means giving yourself the chance to heal, to hope again, to grow, to discover better things and to journey on.

So, if you are disappointed, just like I am today—what are you waiting for? Let’s go! Let’s get a move on! Or as we say in Filipino, Tara na!”

9 comments:

Semaj Mahgih said...

Sometimes we can do it quickly, moving on and sometimes it is too devastating. Faith in your religion helps a lot if it's strong. You tend to see the things going on as more peripheral, except for the good things which are real.

mitsuru said...

cge na nga, tara na! :)

R-yo said...

He he. Sige na nga. Siguro nga perspective ko lang na me Ph.D ako sa kamalasan. Tara! go!

ipanema said...

i think i've had loads of disappointment in life that turned me into a cynic. it's hard when we realise that. takes time to move on. but it's nice in the end that you will be able to laugh at how you'd reacted to it at first.

it's important that we move on. we can't spend our days on earth moping around, waiting for nothing.

Wil said...

Well said. :)

Rudy said...

Sino? Sinong umapi sa yo? Sabihin mo kung sino at sasabunutan ko! :-D

Josh of Arabia said...

though its hard acted out: my motivating quote is" In the struggles to reach a goal, there's always one to move - FORWARD"..

Ur right, so sama ko!..:)

rowena said...

Sige, tara na gypsy, san tayo...Seriously, am one person who can move on in an instant. When I lose (not so true)friends, business deals, relationships gone sour, and more detours on my life's journey, I always move on....

Annamanila said...

I am reading this so long after it has been written. You have recovered (moved on) by now .. havent you? And who's not vulnerable to the occasional blues -- including the usually vibrant gypsy?